Wasting time trying to be what others want you to be is just that,… “A waste of time”. UNLESS someone wants you to be a better you of course. That should be our focus. And have fun being you. If you don’t like yourself, take the time to tweak what needs to be tweaked so you do. Self preservation is the first law of nature. Make sure you preserve yourself in a positive outlook of your own life first, and the rest will follow.